Ambrose A. Carr, Jr.

May 26, 1931 ~ August 29, 2020 (age 89)



Ambrose A. Carr, Jr. (Amby) passed away on August 29th. He was predeceased by his wife, Nancy C. Carr. He leaves his daughter Paula Carr Cummings (Alexander) and their children, his grandchildren, Ian and Sophie; his daughter Margot Carr (Mr. Dana Robinson); and son Ambrose A. Carr, III (Elizabeth) and their children, his grandchildren, Maisie and Libby.

Amby was a man of deep Catholic faith and tremendous love for his family and friends. He exuded joy to all those around him, even to the end.

Amby was born in Brooklyn, New York in 1931; later he moved to Manhasset, Long Island, N.Y. to raise his family. He summered in Quogue, Long Island, N.Y. since he was a young child. He was educated at Brooklyn Preparatory High School, College of the Holy Cross and New York University Graduate School of Business.

Amby worked at IBM for 33 years in the New York area, predominantly in Sales and Marketing. His last position with IBM was as the Director of Industry Relations in Corporate. In retirement, he volunteered for an organization called Morality in Media.

Amby was a man of many interests and enthusiasm, a Renaissance man of sorts, including music, languages, mathematics, and theology. For recreation with his family, Amby would take them skiing in Vermont. His favorite role was teaching the young folks how to ski needless to say he skied until he was 83 years old. He also enjoyed racing one-design sailboats at Manhasset Bay Yacht Club and Sunfish at Shinnecock Yacht Club (SYC). He served as Commodore of SYC in the 1970’s. In the 1960’s, he accomplished the major sailing feat of racing in the world-renowned Bermuda Race. He also enjoyed playing tennis at the Quogue Field Club and participating in the club championships. In retirement, he learned to play golf and approached it with ardor and enthusiasm.

Amby served the Quogue community by serving on the Planning Committee for many years and as the President of the Quogue Beach Club for 13 years. His love for Quogue and its community and traditions ran deep inside him. Most importantly though he loved it as the perfect place to gather his family around him.

At age 79 Amby completed the Camino de Santiago in the north of Spain. It is a 490-mile-long pilgrimage walk from the foothills of the Pyrenees to the Cathedral of St. James, Santiago de Compostela, Spain. Dedicating the trip to the memory of his deceased wife, he completed the Camino in six trips covering five years. He planned the trip himself and had friends and family members accompany him on this wonderful journey of faith and perseverance.

Amby’s glistening eyes, which are a window to his soul, his love of life, and his warmth and wit will be sorely missed. We pray that his example of faith and character will abide with us.

There will be a wake on Friday, September 4th from 3 o’clock to 5 o’clock at Werner & Rothwell Funeral Home, Westhampton Beach. The funeral mass will be held at the Immaculate Conception Church, Westhampton Beach at 11 AM on Saturday, September 5th. Immediately following the funeral mass, all are invited to the burial at 12:00 noon at the Quogue Cemetery. Please bring a shell to place at Amby’s grave in honor of the completion of his “Camino”, as the symbol of the Camino is a scallop shell.

Donations in honor of Ambrose Carr would be welcome at either caringkind, The Heart of Alzheimer’s Caregiving ( or Immaculate Conception Church of Westhampton Beach.


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September 4, 2020

3:00 PM to 5:00 PM
Werner & Rothwell Funeral Home
60 Mill Road
Westhampton Beach, NY 11978

Funeral Mass
September 5, 2020

11:00 AM
Church of the Immaculate Conception
580 Main Street
Westhampton Beach, NY 11978

Interment following funeral service
September 5, 2020

Quogue Cemetery
58 Lamb Avenue
Quogue, NY 11959


The Heart of Alzheimer’s Caregiving
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Immaculate Conception Church
580 Main Street, Westhampton Beach NY 11978
Tel: 1-631-288-1423

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