Raymond Arthur O'Shaughnessy

Raymond Arthur O'Shaughnessy - December 31, 1934 - 2025

Raymond Arthur O'Shaughnessy, known to all as Ray, passed away peacefully on June 28th, with family at his side, leaving behind nine decades of a life fully lived. Born on New Year's Eve in 1934 to Henry and Emma O'Shaughnessy in Plainview, New Jersey, Ray was the youngest of six children. When Ray was just three years old, his family made the move to Seaford, New York, where the coast of Long Island would shape his love of the ocean and the outdoors. At Mepham High School, Ray's natural athleticism shone brightly—he was an impactful member of the football, wrestling and track teams. His wrestling prowess earned him a scholarship to the University of Michigan, where he graduated in 1956. After college, Long Island beckoned Ray home, where he found his calling as an educator. For 34 years, he taught fifth grade and sixth grade, and worked as an administrator in the Seaford School District. Countless students remember Mr. O'Shaughnessy not just as a teacher, but as a gentle guide who believed in their potential and helped them discover their own strengths. In 1970, Ray and his beloved wife Carole started their life together in Remsenburg, building a partnership that exemplified devotion and shared purpose. Whether supporting Carole's catering business or entertaining family and friends in their home, they moved through life as true companions. Ray loved working in the yard. Whether it was carefully crafting a croquet court for his grandchildren or meticulously tending the gardens—every flower bed, every carefully pruned shrub was a testament to his dedication and patience. As a 50 year member of the Westhampton Yacht Squadron, Ray spent hours sailing, fishing, clamming or simply taking in the view of Moriches Bay. His love for the outdoors extended beyond the water—he was a devoted birdwatcher, finding joy in observing birds in his yard and on the shoreline. Ray's greatest pride was his family. He is survived by his devoted wife Carole, who shared his journey for over five decades; his eight children—Dan, Sean, Thomas, Ted, Donald, Brigid, Lynne, Sarah, and his stepdaughter Donna—each carrying forward his values of kindness, perseverance, and love of learning. His legacy lives on in 17 grandchildren and 12 great-grandchildren, as well as cherished nieces and nephews who will remember his gentle wisdom and infectious enthusiasm for life's simple pleasures. Ray O'Shaughnessy lived with intention and humility—a kind, patient and devoted man who is deeply loved and will be greatly missed. Services to celebrate Ray’s life will take place at a later date. Donations are welcome in Ray’s memory to East End Hospice. We are so grateful for the incredible caretakers that were by his side until the end. 

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