Robert J. DeYoung

August 3, 1944 ~ August 18, 2023 (age 79) 79 Years Old


Robert John DeYoung

August 3rd, 1944 – August 18th, 2023

Robert “Bob” “Bobby” DeYoung died peacefully in his sleep at Stony Brook University Hospital on August 18th, 2023. Bob was born under the rays of the Fire Island Lighthouse and baptized in the waters of the Great South Bay.  A South Shore boy through and through, he grew up in West Islip and ultimately landed in East Quogue.  Bob was the son of Peter Lawrence and Anne Veronica Hassett DeYoung and brother to Peter (deceased) and Richard “Dick” DeYoung.  He leaves behind his beloved family including his beautiful wife Lee and his three children Dylan, Lily and Hannah. He was an extremely proud Grandpa to Rosemary, Cecilia and Willem DeYoung.  After graduating from St. Michael’s College, Bob served stateside in the U.S. Army during the Vietnam War and then traveled extensively abroad. Bob wore many professional hats during his lifetime —  banker, real estate broker, lobster fisherman, bulkhead builder, home aide, and, for 20 years, (his dream job and true calling) Steward of the Shinnecock Yacht Club in Quogue, NY. He invigorated the junior sailing program, raced on weekends, shared his love and expertise of sailing with hundreds of young people and adults, and found joy and companionship in the many friendships he made throughout the years. A devout Catholic, Bob was a regular at the 8 o’clock mass at the Immaculate Conception Church in Quiogue. The practice of his faith and the sense of community he had with his fellow parishioners (his “sanctuary”) always provided him with guidance and comfort.  Bob will be sorely missed not only by his immediate family, but by the countless wonderful friends he accumulated throughout his well-lived life.

A wake will be held at the Werner-Rothwell Funeral Home (60 Mill Rd, Westhampton Beach, NY) on Friday, August 25 from 4:00 - 8:00 PM.

Services will be at the Immaculate Conception Church (580 Main Street, Quiogue, NY) on Saturday, August 26 at 10:00 AM.

In lieu of flowers donations can be made to:  Catholic Ministries Appeal or to the North Fork Parish Outreach.

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Memorial Vistitation
August 25, 2023

4:00 PM to 8:00 PM
Werner & Rothwell Funeral Home
60 Mill Road
Westhampton Beach, NY 11978

Memorial Mass
August 26, 2023

10:00 AM
Church of the Immaculate Conception
580 Main Street
Westhampton Beach, NY 11978


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